Another day. I am quite convinced this seperation will end in divorce. I have accepted what my conselors, family and friends have know for years, that my husband is an abuser. No I don't have physical bruises, but I have the kind you can't see....
He remains in his rage mode. He did not go to school or work today. I am certain he did this because he was afraid I would steal my own car.
Because he did not leave the house today I was forced to get a police escort into my own home so I could get a few more clothes for my kids. When we arrived it was obvious that he had just been smoking Mary Jane, but the officer didn't arrest him. He still refuses to hand over the car keys. He actually removed the keys from my key ring just so I couldn't have them.
The kids are doing well. Perhaps they feel safe here at my mothers house. We don't have beds here. The kids are sleeping on an air mattress and still enjoying it, for now.
They are safely tucked in bed. I am sticking as closely to our routine as I can. I kept the promise to take them to Peter Piper Pizza for the school fundraiser. My mother drove us. I believe she is petrified he could do something unpredictable. We will be changing the locks and garage codes.
Strangely I am calmer than i was when staying with him. Weird feeling being at peace. Not worried I didn't do it good enough. Not worried I forgot to take the trash out, sweep the floor, hang clean towels in the bathroom or the mess the kids made in their room.
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STay strong. Cousin your a beautiful woman and a wonderful mommy!! Even though we DONT talk as often as we should remember I love you and if you ever wanna talk I'm here .Hope things will get better for you and the kids soon YOU ARE BLESSED WITH A SMART LOVING MOTHER WHO STAND BY YOUR SIDE..
Another day another rant by her stating I was in a rage. So she knows why I didn’t go to work. She’ knows all. Let me see. I get yelled at by her for not getting her food. She tells me that she wants a divorce. She takes my kids away. I don’t know about you but I find it difficult to do anything when your whole world is coming apart. Think about it. I am writing these responses days after the events occurred because I am slowly accepting this sad fact, my marriage is over. She has no problem blogging about this experience portraying herself as the abused victim of a ragging husband on a day to day update. Does not sound like she is hurting much does it? And the whole police thing, she does not mention that she did not bother to contact me to ask me to leave so that she can get some items from the house. Instead she convinces those around her that she is a victim and I am an uncontrollable maniac and needs a police escort to walk me out of my home. Yes mind you that I did hide her car keys but she fails to mention that I have every right to considering that the car is in my name and she wants to take that as well. One of the police officers even talked to me about the car and agreed that I legally did not have to give her the car keys. Again her mom keeps saying that we need to talk and figure out what we are going to do. I tell her that her daughter does not want to talk to me and I do want to talk to her. They finish up and she leaves with her mom. The cops thank me for my co-operation and leave as well. So I ask you if your wife continues to rant and tell people that you are person that’s an uncontrollable rage, wouldn’t you think that some of these event would turn out differently? “I believe she is petrified he could do something unpredictable. We will be changing the locks and garage codes.” I ask why her mom would think that. Is it because I am portrayed that way by daughter? There is this comedian that talks about how he was in divorce court and his wife tells the judge that he had beaten her and the kids for years. The comedian states that the state of California is a no fault state and everything is split 50/50, unless someone claims spousal abuse which then in turn leaves the judge to decide that the spouse claiming abuse can receive up to 100 percent of everything including custody of children. The comedian then says if there was one thing that would want to make him want to be a wife beater is to be accused of being a wife beater by his wife. Then he makes a comment about if he could have five minutes alone with his wife so he can make her not a liar.
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